6. YOU HIDE YOUR PARTNER’S SOCIAL MEDIA ACTIVITY ABOUT YOU.
Not being a Facebook fanatic yourself is one thing, but it gets weird when you start untagging yourself from photos and status updates your partner posts. Like everything else in a relationship, communication is important here — if you don’t like any photos of you to appear on social media or your boss wouldn’t be happy with you being tagged as being in a nightclub on a Tuesday night, just tell your partner. If you don’t, it just looks like you’re trying to bury evidence that you’re together.
7. YOU TAKE YOUR ANTI-PDA STANCE TO EXTREMES.
Not wanting to stick your tongues down each other’s throats on the subway? Normal. Jerking away when your partner affectionately squeezes your hand on the subway? Not normal. Not everyone wants to be on top of each other while in public and that’s understandable. It gets sketchy when you don’t want any interaction with them that would give away the fact that your relationship is more than platonic.
8. YOU TREAT YOUR PARTNER LIKE A “BRO” IN PUBLIC.
Lots of couples have a “best friends” vibe as well as a romantic vibe, so it’s not ridiculous for you to playfully poke fun at each other during a game of dive bar pool or share a congratulatory fist bump when they tell you about how they nailed their presentation at work. What is ridiculous is when the only interactions you’re willing to exchange in public are the same ones you’d share with your guy friends. You know and they know that it’s just a poorly disguised attempt to make it seem like you two are just buddies, and I guarantee it makes your partner feel lousy.
9. YOUR SECRETIVE WAYS ARE ONE-SIDED.
Maybe you’ve both agreed that you’re not ready to let people know that you’re together yet so you’re on the same page about keeping your distance (both physically and otherwise) in public. But if you haven’t had that talk yet, or you’re going against your partner’s express wishes to make it a known thing that you’re together, they’re probably not cool with you acting like your relationship is a filthy scandal.
10. NO ONE’S ACTUALLY SURE IF YOU’RE IN A RELATIONSHIP OR NOT.
Even people who are quiet about their love lives still make it known to their friends and family that they’re in a serious relationship. If the people closest to you ask questions that imply you’re single, either they need to pay better attention or you need to be more clear that your partner is, in fact, your partner.