I Stopped Doing These 7 Things When I Got Into A Relationship & I Seriously Regret It

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I’m happily married to the man of my dreams, but for a while there, I was spending a lot of time reminiscing about my single days. I eventually realized it had nothing to do with dating other people and everything to do with the fact that I’d stopped doing the things that make me happy. Here are a few things I recently got back into and that make me a much more fulfilled person and partner.

1. SEEING LIVE MUSIC BY MYSELF 

When I was single, I used to go to shows by myself all the time. I loved the feeling of dancing by myself, getting lost in a crowd and not worrying about keeping track of anyone. Going to a concertwith my husband (or my friends) is one of my favorite things to do and we have a lot of similar tastes, but just because I love doing it doesn’t mean I should stop seeing music alone too. It’s a completely different experience and I missed that freeing feeling. I always come back feeling rejuvenated.

2. EATING ALONE

There were times during my single days when I wanted to go out to eat but didn’t really feel like meeting up with anyone, so I’d go it alone. I enjoyed the solo time to simply treat myself or observe the interactions going on around me. It felt fancy to be at a restaurant alone. I felt interesting when I’d tell the host that I wanted a table for one. It was something that was a little challenging to do at first, but I always felt like it brought me more confidence. Yes, I’m alone. Yes, it’s intentional. Yes, I like it. Awesome, right?

3. MEETING STRANGERS

My husband would tell you I meet people everywhere I go, so I can’t say I completely stopped chatting up people I don’t know. However, I did stop actually developing real connections with strangers. I’m not talking about people from work or new friendships that develop from acquaintances over time. In my single days, I might meet someone at a bookstore and end up taking a painting class with him or her that night. For some reason, when I got into a relationship, I adopted the mentality that a new friendship with a stranger wasn’t acceptable. New friend hangout doesn’t mean date, and closing myself off to new friendships was holding me back from making authentic connections with people.

4. BUYING FRIVOLOUS THINGS THAT MAKE ME HAPPY

When my husband and I started sharing our finances (years before ever getting married), I started feeling guilty whenever I’d spend money on something I didn’t really need (like a gorgeous vegan leather jacket that I still think about). Retail therapy is real! I’m not looking to blow all of our money on shoes or anything, but a little splurge on a vintage dress to treat myself every once in a while is definitely fine and makes me feel beautiful. My husband and I have never had any issues with responsibly spending our money so I don’t know why I stopped treating our money as mine too.

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