Your friends, your parents, and most dating experts might advise you to stay far away from a guy who has kids. However, I feel like one woman’s baby daddy is another woman’s treasure, and you should definitely give that guy who’s already made the journey into parenthood a shot—here’s why.
1. THINGS WILL MOVE AT A MORE NATURAL PACE.
If he’s playing an active role in his children’s lives, you can forget about spending days on end with him when you first meet. His schedule will be jam-packed with picking up the kids, dropping off the kids, taking the kids to their music lessons, and so on. Now, this might seem like you’ll be getting into a relationship with a guy who has no time for you, but that’s not the case. Because he’ll be so busy with his daddy duties, it’ll force your relationship to slow down a bit, allowing you to grow together as a couple at a slow and steady pace.
2. YOU’LL KNOW HE’S SERIOUS WHEN HE INTRODUCES YOU TO HIS KIDS.
With a childless guy, you can never be too sure when he considers your relationship to be serious. When you date a guy who has kids, you’ll know that your relationship’s heading in the right direction when you finally meet the kiddos. He doesn’t just introduce anyone to his little ones, so once you get the proper introduction, his intentions and how he really feels about you will be crystal clear.
3. YOU GET INSTANT BONUS KIDS—HOW COOL IS THAT?
If you don’t have kids of your own, what better way to get some practice than to forge a relationship with your bonus children? Of course they have a mother of their own, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a loving bond with them as well. And who knows, you might just find that being a step-mom is something you really enjoy!
4. YOU’LL CHERISH EVERY MOMENT YOU SPEND TOGETHER.
When he’s not busy parenting, the time the two of you spend together will be more precious. Because he’ll likely be short on time when you see him, you won’t waste the day bickering about stupid things or just lounging around the house doing nothing. He’ll make sure that every date and each encounter is magical and memorable.
5. HE’LL BE LESS SUPERFICIAL.
He’s probably used to his ex helping with a lot of the household duties such as cooking, cleaning, and laundry. Now that he’s back in the dating world, he may instinctively look for a woman who can fill that role, and that woman may very well be you. No, that doesn’t mean he’s desperate and he’ll literally hook up with anyone just so he can have a hot dinner waiting for him when he gets home from work. It simply means he won’t be so fixated on your looks and your body. Instead, he’ll be looking even deeper to explore your morals, your values, and how’ll you’ll integrate yourself into his ready-made family. That’s a win for you! A guy who doesn’t expect you to look like a knockout 24/7 is a keeper, in my opinion.